We Are All Like Karna!

 💥 We Are All Like Karna!

"Because I’ve been wronged, I can do no wrong."

We all go through moments in life where we feel wronged. Maybe someone betrayed us, maybe our hard work was credited to someone else, or maybe life just seems unfair. And yes, sometimes it really is unfair. The world doesn’t always play fair.

But here’s the truth — how we respond to that unfairness decides our future.

When we see ourselves as a victim, we often feel we have the right to behave badly with others. The hidden logic becomes:
“I’ve been hurt, so I can hurt back — and it's justified.”
This mindset can lead to ego, aggression, and even revenge. It feels valid, even righteous — but it can also lead us down a dark road where we hurt others and justify it using our own pain.

Let’s look at Karna — the tragic hero of the Mahabharata.

 

🧬 Karna’s Life: A Story of Injustice and Pain

From birth, Karna was abandoned by his mother.
Society mocked him for his caste, calling him a "low-born."
Even though he proved his brilliance, he was denied respect.
At Draupadi’s swayamvar (royal marriage ceremony), she insulted him based on his birth and rejected him.

All these were real wounds. And to protect himself, Karna built a shield — his ego and his desire for revenge.

He became friends with Duryodhana — the only one who gave him the respect he craved. But in that friendship, Karna also started supporting Duryodhana’s wrongdoings.

During Draupadi’s humiliation in the royal court, while great warriors like Bhishma, Drona, and Vidura sat silently in shame, Karna didn't stay silent — he encouraged it.
He even called Draupadi a “woman of low character” and enjoyed her humiliation.

Why? Because in his mind he thought:
“She insulted me once. She deserves this.”

His logic: “I was wronged, so I can now wrong others.”
That is where Karna — a great warrior — lost his moral compass.
His victim mindset was more powerful than his wisdom.

Throughout the war, his battle wasn’t just with Arjuna. It was with the pain and humiliation he carried in his heart.

 

⚠️ Moral Licensing – A Dangerous Justification

Psychology calls this mindset “Moral Licensing”.

It means:
"Because I suffered or did something good in the past, I now have the right to do something wrong."

Example:

• “I worked hard for years. I deserve to cheat a little now.”
• “I was insulted once. So now I’ll insult others.”

Unknowingly, we start becoming the very thing we hated — we hurt others and call it justice.

 

🔄 The Victim-Victimizer Cycle

Karna’s story is personal. But this victim mindset exists in society too.

In India, we’ve suffered centuries of invasions, colonization, and exploitation. These are historical injustices. But when we use that past to avoid responsibility in the present, we fall into the same trap.

We say:

• “Our country is poor because of foreign invaders.”
• “Our culture was ruined by colonizers.”

Yes, the pain is real. But blaming the past forever makes us helpless today.

When someone talks about corruption, casteism, or injustice in India, we respond with:

• “But look at what they did to us!”
• “They were worse!”

This is “Whataboutery” — avoiding the present issue by pointing fingers elsewhere.

"Because we were wronged, you can't question us now."
This leads to anger, blame, and hatred — the same poison Karna carried.

 

🧠 Examples from Everyday Life

1. A woman who faced workplace politics and gender bias — when she gets promoted, she treats juniors harshly. Why? “I suffered, now they must understand the pain too.”
2. A teacher who was punished as a child — becomes harsh with students. “I was hit too — they must learn discipline!”

And so, the cycle continues.
Every victim eventually becomes a victimizer — unless we break the chain.

 

🔓 Break the Cycle: Don’t Make Victimhood Your Identity

Your pain is real. Your injustice is real. Acknowledge it.

But also say this to yourself:
“I will not pass this pain to others. I will not let my pain define my actions.”

Anger and empathy can exist together.
You can feel angry at what someone did — but not take it out on innocent people.

Before reacting, pause and reflect:

• “Who am I truly angry at?”
• “Is this person really responsible?”
• “Am I becoming the kind of person who once hurt me?”

 

🧘 Be the Witness, Not Just the Wounded

Sometimes, being a victim becomes a safe identity —
It makes us feel protected, and we stop trusting others.

But if we become the boss, teacher, parent, or leader — and still carry that hurt — we end up hurting others from that same pain.

“Victimhood is an easy role — because it doesn’t ask you to change anything.”

But growth demands honesty, self-awareness, and courage.

 

🧭 Final Thought: Hurt People Hurt People… But You Can Choose Better

Karna was a great soul. But his victim mentality stopped him from taking full responsibility for his actions.

He blamed circumstances for his decisions. But sometimes, the greatest victory is not winning a war — it's breaking the label of “I am a victim.”

"Hurt people hurt people."
But we don’t have to continue that chain.

You can choose healing over hurting.
You can let your pain make you wiser — not bitter.

👉 What will you choose?

 

🚀 Call to Action – For My Shipping Fraternity:

Dear Seafarers, Officers, Engineers, and ShipOps Warriors:
In the rough waves of shipping and life, pain is inevitable — but passing it forward is optional.

Let’s break the chain. Let’s rise above.

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