Rule of Thumb" – A Thumbprint of Patriarchy We Carry Silently

 🚢 "Rule of Thumb" – A Thumbprint of Patriarchy We Carry Silently

By Dattaram Walvankar | #ShipOpsInsightsWithDattaram

Hey #ShipFam 👨‍✈️👩‍✈️

Ever used the term “Rule of Thumb” while solving an onboard problem or explaining something to your junior officer?

I have.
We all do.
But today, let me take you on a journey behind these simple words...
A journey soaked in centuries-old patriarchy, injustice, and a quiet reminder of how language shapes mindsets.

 

🔍 The Dark Origin Behind a Common Phrase

It was the Middle Ages, a time when the law treated women not as partners, but as possessions—like cattle, children, or pets. Under the Common Law of England, a husband literally owned his wife.

📜 Back then, judges gave legal sanction to this ‘ownership’ by defining how much force a husband could use to discipline his wife without it being considered abuse.

In 1782, a judge named Francis Buller ruled that a man could beat his wife with a stick—as long as it wasn’t thicker than his thumb! 😳 Yes, his thumb became the unit of domestic violence regulation.

 

🧠 From Courtrooms to Common Speech – How the 'Thumb' Ruled

You might think, "Was it just one judge's mistake?"

Not at all.

In 1824, a court in Mississippi upheld the same "rule."
In 1868, another court said it was okay to beat a wife with a stick the size of a finger—because fingers are thinner than thumbs! 🤦‍♂️

Even in 1917, legal experts like Byrne Stedman echoed the same belief in written law.

💬 What started as an actual method to regulate violence against women turned into a phrase we now casually use in boardrooms, shipping ops meetings, and WhatsApp messages to mean a practical rule based on experience.

 

🚢 What Does This Mean for Us in Shipping?

As a shipping professional who thrives on discipline, systems, and decision-making, it hit me hard when I discovered this.

⚓ We use phrases like "rule of thumb" daily while training cadets, explaining procedures, or troubleshooting on board.
But understanding the emotional baggage these phrases carry can help us become more aware leaders—more empathetic, more conscious of the impact of our words.

Let’s build not just operational excellence, but also emotional and ethical excellence.

 

🧭 Let’s Lead with Awareness, Not Just Experience

Dear #ShipFamily,

This isn’t just about replacing a phrase.
It’s about questioning how language reflects beliefs... and how beliefs shape cultures—even onboard our ships. 🚢

So next time you say “Rule of Thumb,” pause for a second.
Ask: “Is there a better way to say this?”

🔁 Replace it with:

• "General guideline"
• "Standard practice"
• "Experience-based method"

Let’s grow together—not just professionally, but also as thoughtful human beings. 🌍💙

 

✨ Call to Action

If this story stirred something inside you, drop a comment and let me know your thoughts.
💬 Have you used this phrase before? Will you think twice now?
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